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So Your Child Wants To Quit Violin Lessons.......

3/18/2014

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I love getting to meet people on the road and talk and hear their stories and questions.  Often times I get asked how I started playing violin as a career, my stance on music education, etc.  But then sometimes I meet moms of tiny violinists and the question comes up..."If my child isn't as excited about lessons as they used to be, do I make them keep going? Do I let them quit?"  I always share my experience as best I can to encourage them. 

Then a few weeks ago, a mom sent me a message on Facebook.  I'd met them at an event a few years ago and we had talked...I'd encouraged her that violin could be a great thing for her then 6 year old daughter and she and her husband had felt that it might be exactly what the Lord had for them and their little girl.  And apparently the little girl had the same idea.  Lessons were begun with a beloved teacher and it was a great experience all around.  Well, for a while.  Then she'd been moved to write me a letter.  Her daughter is now on the verge of turning 12 and they feel at a crossroads.  To quote her letter, "She has a natural gifting so there's not that desire to practice, which I'm sure that's totally normal for her age. But we aren't going to let her quit because at this point we feel like we'd be letting her out of what we know God spoke. But I don't want it to be miserable for her!!!  My question is, did you ever go through that? How did your parents encourage you to stay the course? What could I be doing to really make the violin something she loves?"

I felt a tiny bit at a loss. I can cheerlead for music education all day long as I've been both a student and a teacher.  I know the impact it's made on my life.  But there was a key element missing here as I've never parented a child at ALL, let alone through the decision to persevere or call it quits with an activity.  But fortunately, I DID know someone who had been through this, not only with violin lessons, but with a myriad of extra curricular activities that I chose to be a part of as a child, adolescent and young adult.  My own mom.  So I emailed her asking if she'd be willing to sit down and write a response.  Fortunately not only was she willing, but the letter she wrote was excellent.  So excellent that it seemed a shame not to share it with you all.


Dear Fellow "Violin Mom",
I’m Bethany’s Mom.  Bethany passed your message on to me, thinking that perhaps I could give you some feedback from the point of view of a Mom whose “been there, done that.”

Now, believe me, I’m not claiming to possess the wisdom of the ages, just a little bit that comes from experience.  Here are some things I’d consider, although you may already be aware of all these:
  1. Is your daughter actually asking to quit, or is she just at the stage where the novelty of playing violin has worn a little thin?  Maybe her playing needs a little “new life” breathed into it through attendance at a special workshop or a few lessons into a different genre of music – some bluegrass or Celtic fiddle (which is usually pretty lively, fun stuff that can expand a player’s overall ability).  If she is actually asking to quit, find out why.  Sometimes at that age, kids get teased about their activity, if it isn’t the “cool” activity of the day. Also, that is the age at which girls’ lives are really beginning to open up and they see other activities and opportunities that compete with their music.  Bethany primarily took violin and piano up until age 11, at which point her schedule began to truly burst with other interests (horseback riding, 4-H, a theater group for children that she founded, show choir, jazz ensemble, etc. etc.).  These all had merit and gave her great experiences. There were many times all the way through high school when she barely had time to practice violin, but we plugged away at lessons from week to week.  After all, a girl may play soccer for a season in her life, but music can be taken THROUGH LIFE.  If she wants to “try other things,” allow it, if you can possibly afford the time and money for it all.  Not having to choose between violin and another activity may make it easier to stick with her music, even if her progress plateaus for a while.
  2. I’m assuming she takes not just private lessons, but has the opportunity to play [music] with other kids?  If she’s not in a group class of some sort, playing violin can be an “isolating” experience, and I’d recommend a class, workshop, etc. so she can develop camaraderie with other young musicians.  Also, help her find ways to use her violin playing as a ministry - at church, at nursing homes, etc. (Bethany even “sold songs” at a church bazaar to help with the fundraiser.) Using her talent may be key to maintaining interest.
  3. It’s difficult to think of an 11-year-old going through hormonal changes, but the fact of the matter is, a girl that age is changing internally, and whether or not you can see the transformation just yet, her endocrine system is cranking up and can cause mood swings that may make her act like she’s “miserable” one minute and perfectly chipper the next. 
  4. It’s difficult to know whether God was speaking about your daughter’s entire life, but she’s now had 5 or 6 years to gain a valuable musical education and all that goes with that (fine motor skills, listening skills, brain development, poise, etc.).  Just like riding a bicycle, IF she did take a break from violin, she has already benefited from the training and she could pick it up again without having lost too much – although again, sometimes we just have to plug away and maintain. 
Let me share my own experience. As an 8-year old, I wanted to learn the guitar.  I was so small, and my parents unable to afford much, so they bought me a ukelele – which doesn’t sound much like a guitar.  However, I taught myself a number of chords and still desired to learn the guitar.  At age 13, I was almost tall enough to handle my aunt’s guitar, which we borrowed. But it was just a difficult age at which to start. I wanted to go out with friends, and for other reasons, I stopped lessons after only a few months.  “Life got in the way,” but in the back of my mind I still desired to learn to play the guitar, even while I learned the violin alongside my daughter (as you may know, part of the Suzuki Method is that a parent learn along with the child).  Anyway, to make a long story short, I always WISHED I had persevered with the guitar back when I was a teen, and finally, about 2 years ago – at age 60, I again took up the instrument.  I’m never going to be a “Chet Atkins,” but I sure have fun with it.  I always wonder, though, how accomplished I could be now IF I had plugged away when I began at 13.  But those chords I learned on the ukelele and during my 3 months of guitar lessons stayed with me and gave a little jumpstart.  

I sure hope your daughter will hang in there – not necessarily to become a professional (that was not our goal with Bethany – just that music would be beneficial to her overall development) – but to have a skill she can enjoy throughout her whole life – and use to the Glory of God on many occasions.

Best wishes to you both!
Barbara Daniel
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Getting It In Gear: These Are A Few Of My Favorite Things

3/11/2014

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About a month ago at a concert with Laura Story in North Carolina, a guy and his wife came up to me at the merchandise table.  He introduced himself and mentioned that he was a violist and was especially curious to know what sort of gear I use to amplify my violin.  It was fun to talk to him and geek out like string players do when they randomly meet.  I scribbled down on some paper the different products that I'd recommend. 

Today, I was thinking that it was about time for a new blog post and since I've had lots of other violinists and violists ask about my gear at various gigs, I thought that I'd write a few notes on the products that I use.  Please note that I don't have any endorsement deals, so I've not been paid or perked to mention any of this...it's all just stuff I love after a lifetime of trying different violin related products.  (Although if you happen to work for one of these companies and feel like sending me free stuff, I'm totally cool with that as well.)

I highly recommend you purchase products from The Violin Shop located on 8th Avenue South in Nashville, Tennessee or HERE at their Online Store. 

If they don't have what you need in-store or online, then I recommend Young Musicians, a Ft. Worth based company that began just as I was beginning violin lessons. 

Other quality retailers include Corner Music (Nashville, TN), Williams Fine Violins (Nashville, TN), Shar Music (online), Andy's Music (Mobile, AL), and Southwest Strings (online).

L.R. Baggs Violin Pickup - Because most of what I do involves playing as part of a band, it makes the most sense for me to have some form of direct amplification.  Trust me when I say I've tried it ALL.  I'm pretty sure I've put every single pick-up on the market on my fiddle at one point or another, and also clipped on many a mic that wasn't even made for a violin.  But when I first moved to town I discovered this fantastic option by L.R. Baggs.  It's built into your bridge and the plug in part secured to the side of the instrument by a Carpenter Jack which attaches basically the same way the chin-rest does.  It won't damage your fiddle: it's semi-permanent since it's built into the bridge, so it won't harm or alter the construction of your instrument, but you also don't have to take it on and off every time you play, and the resulting tone is true to the acoustic sound.  And any live sound engineer I've ever worked with adores it.  What's not to love?  Get a luthier to install it to keep the warranty valid.  Cost: $200-$250 including pickup, jack and installation.  (about $150-$175 for the equipment alone.)
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Fishman Pro EQ Platinum PreAmp - I remember the first time I saw a preamp or direct input box.  Another violinist friend had one and I was perplexed at the purpose of this little metal box with dials on it.  Realizing that I probably needed my own little box with buttons, I purchased this preamp and have loved playing through it for the past 8 years now.  I was even playing though it when my album was recorded.  It's nice to be able to control my own sound at least a little bit, and when the sound man yells, "you got a volume knob on that thing?!" I can confidently answer Yes, yes I can! Cost: $150 - $250 depending on the retailer.  Consider purchasing one used for a lower price.

Boss TU-3 Chromatic Tuner Pedal - Although I was taught to tune my violin by ear as a kid and I carry a tuning fork with me in my case, (yes that's oldschool, and I love it.) when I made the jump from playing solo or in orchestral settings to jamming with drums and electric guitars, I quickly realized that in addition to tuning before the show I needed the ability to tune during a show (which I'd need to do by sight, not by ear if other instruments were playing), and the ability to mute my line.   This pedal allows me to easily do both. Even though this pedal is technically built for guitars and basses and the like, it works great on my violin line and I love it. Cost: $100-$175 depending on the retailer.  Another thing that you could probably find used at a discounted price.
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Ingles Violin Stand - Once, back in college, I had just finished soundcheck with my church's praise band, and I propped my violin up against a monitor speaker while I ran to the bathroom.  Needless to say, it was not a good move and that violin is now in about 6 pieces in a little satin bag in an antique violin "coffin" case I have....(the irony of which is not lost on me.)  These days, I'm older and wiser and my instrument is more valuable, so when I need to leave it onstage, I use this violin stand by Ingles.  It goes on the road with me everywhere I go, (and my husband props his banjo on it when I'm at home and my fiddle is in it's case).  Also works great for violas and mandolins, and they even make a bigger version for cello and upright bass.  Cost: about $30 for the violin/viola/mandolin sized version....a small price to pay for the safety of your instrument.

Larsen Light Rosin - Rosin is one of those things where you can spend a little or a lot and it's often hard to know what to get.  On my first trip to the Violin Shop, I asked what they recommended and they sold me a cake of the Larsen Light rosin which is about middle of the road on the price meter.  I gave a cake of it to my uncle (a fine fiddler) for Christmas and he too is a fan.  Cost: $19-25 depending on the retailer
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Wolf "Super Flexibel" Shoulder Rest - Growing up I was a hardcore fan of the Kun Original shoulder rest, well, after I graduated from a kitchen sponge to a WeBad to a real shouder rest that is.  My teacher in 8th grade told my mom I had to buy a Wolf, which we did (we were complient folk) and I hated it.  At least I hated whatever model we bought back then.  But a few years ago when my Kun finally bit the dust (yes, I'd gone back to my Kun!), I noticed this model by Wolf in the glass case at The Violin Shop and tried it out and finally found the shoulder rest of my dreams.  I had some difficulty location this exact rest online for you fine folks, but looks like the Wolf "Forte Secondo" might be the newer and fairly equivalent version.  Cost: about $30
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So there you have it!  A few of my favorite things.  What gear do you love?  Any more questions?  I'd love to hear your thoughts.
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    Bethany is a freelance violinist/fiddler and tour manager who works with artists & events such as  Kelly Minter, Cultivate: A Gathering Around The Word and Laura Story.  She and her husband Keith live in Nashville, TN with their daughter Clare, cat & 6 backyard chickens. For more info on Bethany, visit her bio page!!

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